when my boys' dad left I was a single mom with no child support for ...well...for forever. They are 13 and 14 now and he left when they were 2 and 3. He just started paying child support this past year!!! Holy smokes!!!
He wrote letters refusing to allow me to send them to private schools, tried to stop me from moving 3 hours away (even though he never saw them) and this past year stopped Cori from adopting them. Now that Nick turned 14 and Dylan will be turning 14, they can request that Cori become their legal guardian in place of Jeremy. They are in the process of doing so.
Lila...
you need to suck it up
You aren't a relationship with this guy
It is not his job to do what you want him to do
it is your job to get your crap together and get it done
I worked a full-time job, a part-time job, went to an accelerated masters program and was a single parent to 2 kiddos in order to get what I needed to get done done. There are tons of people who have had to do what it is that you are doing
You need to get your daughter to sleep
YOU need to do this
you can't wait for someone else to help you or keep thinking up excuses
get it done
you are a parent now and the time for pussyfooting around is over
it's hard and messy and exhausting but you need to get it done
