yes, I have the book. I think my main love language is quality time and my close second is words of affirmation. I am not sure what his is. I think it may be "acts of service" because that is what he gives me the most of. I try to speak all the languages to him.
I think he feels loved but he has a huge issue with intimacy and it causes him a lot of anxiety. He knows I love him, but that is kind of a problem because he doesn't want to get too close. It is a pretty tricky situation and I need to figure out how I can feel close enough to be getting my intimacy needs met while giving him the distance he needs.
