working hard guy, thank you for addressing my fear.

He is vindictive. But in very passive-aggressive ways.

And another thing is that every time I've been really thriving or happy and he's seen that, he'll do something to try to tear it down. I'm not saying it's a conscious thing....

His family is like this too. They are very nasty and haven't spoken to us in 20 months and have said very threatening vindictive things on his and my facebook.

I know I will thrive and get back on my feet as I always do - I'll set up a great life for myself, travel to Italy, meet a new man, but the question is - what will he do to fight back against all that.

We're not coming out of this as friends. There's no "I wish the best for you"