I know ROMB, I have the same feeling. I see my w so sad and in pain. I just want to hold her and tell her it will all be ok. But I stop myself by trying to see through her eyes. Seeing that the hug, comment, offer would only make the pain worse. It only serves to remind her of what her immediate actions have wrought.

I have only held my w once like that since the bomb, and that was when she asked me to.


Married 6 together 8
Me:38 W:31 second marriage for both
SS12, SD10, S6
Bomb: 9/8/11 (day before our 5 yr ann)
W moved out: 2/18/12
D final: 11/12/12
Share S 50/50. Spend as much time as I can with SS & SD