You are right, this move is good for me no matter the outcome. I think I shifted from being worried each day that he was going to leave, to worrying he may still leave. I had about a week reprieve of not worrying too much when he said he wanted to stay. Then it's back to feeling anxious again.
I agree that negativity could ruin this, so I'm struggling to keep positive. He told me this afternoon that he was sorry for what he put me through but he just wants to move forward.
I don't think mc is going to help our marriage. I think individual therapy is better... however, I worry an independent therapist could be just as destructive. I don't know.
I have been to therapy in the past for my own childhood issues, and it saved my life. So I'm not against therapy...
Once again I have to let it go... even if he stays, this is still not within my control.
I think my h is detached in some ways .... from his behavior last summer. If he doesn't understand what made him "go crazy" as he puts it, then it could happen again.
I need to move on to reading more on piecing... cause you are right... if I'm negative, and constantly worried, he will sense that.
