No I haven't discussed this with a L yet. W isn't really talking D and when I talked about that with her she said she would not file without talking with me first. I believe her but since you and others are advising me to do so, I will.
There do seem to be positives happening but as recently as Tuesday W was still talking seperation. So I don't know what to make of it. I'm not looking to change anything to derail my progress but I don't know how to solve the living arrangement sitch without flat out refusing to move which I think will corner her and she may move out instead and with her parents coming soon, it could make things very problematic.
I'm not planning to go dark but if we seperate, isn't that kind of going dark? It will certainly be heavy detachment, don't you think?
Me51 W53 S17 S14 M22 T25 Bomb-9/11; A-11/11; I move out 11/11
It's easy to find our bottom, it is our top that requires cultivation.
Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife
