I agree... our first stint in MC was back in September 1999. I issued an ultimatum back then: "Either we head into MC or I'm walking with the kids." Mr. Wonderful chose the C route...
Back then, my entire life was in turmoil. Looking back, I think I might have been having MLC myself. And I was angry as hell.
It took our MC several sessions to actually sort through things to discuss the anger (which had taken over my life).
Once he got me calm enough to get into things, he told us that ANGER IS A CALL FOR ACTION.
He indicated that left unchecked, it is very unhealthy. But that it is no more powerful than happiness, frustration, anxiety or excitement--it is we who give it so much power by pretending it does not exist.
I had not seen your book back then, but have seen it many times when browsing the self help section of my favorite bookstores.
I try to treat anger with some modest respect but not to allow it too much latitude. Sort of like the annoying door-to-door salesman who knocks at dinnertime...
I answer the door, find out what he wants, deal with him and close the door. I do not invite him in as a guest and ask him to stay in the guest room until he feels it is time to leave.
Right on!
Would you share more with us?
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
