Back home - but for how long?

[workinghardguy]

Thanks for posting this comment Grocery. Should the worst come and pass, this is my hope for my W and I. And, assuming she doesn't lose her mind during any D or S proceedings, I think the two of us could pull it off.

We've already talked through some of it. Lord knows I feel hurt but at the same time I can see her pain and want that to better for her. And we both love our S and I love her kids and want that all to work.

I think of taking all the kids (SS & SD too) on vacations, maybe her coming along, maybe not. Going to school events and ballgames together. Basically trying to give my S as normal a life as he can have w/o mom and dad under the same roof.

I see the life my W and her XH have, the battles, the acrimony, and the pain on my SS and SD's faces. All I know is I don't want that, and will do my absolute best to co-parent.

And for others heading down this road I suggest researching and reading on co-parenting. And doing this BEFORE getting into the thick of D stuff. Reading it has really impacted me and changed my thoughts on how I would approach things. It has opened me up, made me child-centric, and had me consider things (like voluntary alimony) that I never would've even paused to consider before.