The real problem with D is that nobody wins except the lawyers. After our D is final (whenever that is) we are still going to have to deal with each other for at least the next 15 years. I don't make a lot of money and is barely enough for me to live on. If my W is awarded custody and I have to pay CS, I'm going to loose my house, I'm going to have to file for bankruptcy, I will have lost at least half the time that I would normally have with my kids, and I will have lost the one woman who means the world to me. However, she will have gained 28% of my earnings, less financial responsibility (living with her dad--no bills to pay and he is usually out of town), and free to do whatever she wants and with whoever she wants (starting to think there may be OM). So in the end, she leaves and gets everything, while I'm still here and lose everything. Yeah, life is fair.


Me36, W38
S12, S3
T20, M4
Bomb dropped 8/18/11
Moved out 8/18/11
Filed for D 10/20/11
OM Confirmed 11/5/11