Did I read it correctly? You are the one moving out?
Is there a way to find out if she went underground with the EA?
Yes, you read that correctly. I will be the one moving out. It is her request although she is the one who initiated the "I'm done" conversation". Right now she is the one who is working and paying the bills (i.e. with her income; I actually pay the bills). We have 2 kids involved and I don't want to antagonize her. She has volunteered to move but is concerned for the kids.
My DB coach thinks that since Selfishness are Control are primary issues in our R that by my heeding my W's wishes that it would be a clear sign of unselfishness for me to move and give her the space she needs. We have adequate savings to manage for awhile while I look for work.
Yes, I think the EA may have moved underground some. Either that or things have cooled some or the OM is away at the moment. It is a long distance thing anyway. So....
WHG - thanks for the perspective. I needed that!
Me51 W53 S17 S14 M22 T25 Bomb-9/11; A-11/11; I move out 11/11
It's easy to find our bottom, it is our top that requires cultivation.
Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife
