Some things I learned today regarding controlling behavior:
- I need to continue to be self aware of my actions and behavior - I need to focus more on my self and my own behaviors and not worry about controlling others behavior. - I need to recognize that I can't compete with the OM or W's T because these are things I can't control. - Instead focus on making myself the best person I can be. - Put up mental roadblocks to help detour away from controlling behavior.
If I may add about point #2. Also don't worry about how they may react to your actions. How they respond is their own feelings. May not be the same as yours, but it's not wrong either. If you doing what you believe in and have good boundaries, people will respect you.
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My T thought that I did a great job of not controlling when W and I had our R talk the other day and I didn't bring up the EA that I know she is having (it was running through my mind the whole time!). He thought that took a tremendous amount of courage and for someone who is controlling to not bring that up was HUGE!
Did I read it correctly? You are the one moving out?
Is there a way to find out if she went underground with the EA?
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
