Kitty, Your smart handling of the discipline matter points something out. In talking to many people I find strict ones marry more lenient ones every time. The real truth is neither, alone, are properly balanced (that's one reason single parents have a tough time). If both exercise love, they compromise on the correct balance. I think it's designed that way by God. If spouses get critical and polerized, that is a disaster. I was at the 2002 SmartMarriages convention in Washington. Michelle gave one of the two key speeches called "Guerilla Divorce Busting". It was one of the great speeches; I bought the video when I got back. In the tape she outlined her success with her own husband in one instance bydoing exactly what you did. By the way it is amazing how DB principles follow the Bible and work. If you want to study that more check out www.smartmarriages.com and how other competent psychologists who haven't taken the bait of the divorce lie are proving the Bible right despite a world that says it's wrong. I always note the similarity between the pro-divorce "experts" and the Bible's Babylon Majic Practicing Priests. Back then these idiots had credibility. Can't you just hear them all saying "Everyone knows if you sacrifice your babies to Baal your crops grow!" Later, good science proved them wrong. Now "social science" says divorce is often necessary. Isn't it funny how the smart and open minded social scientists (like Michelle) are proving the others to be more just advocates of what the Federal Courts now clearly see as "junk science".
