I asked my W if she was going to go trick or treating with us. She responded with "can I?"
Me: why not
Her: Didn't think u want to see me

I had gone dark. I'm nice when I see her, but I do avoid seeing her when possible. For example, if she drops something by the house I'll have my neighbor pick it up. Frankly, it kills me to see her. Especially knowing she is trying to date other people.

How/should I respond? I WANT to see her. But it hurts and I'm trying to give her distance. Which she doesn't seem to be responding to.