W is angrier after my 180's - time + consistency

[workinghardguy]

Hey 2TP... I'm glad your T said he thought it was premature... I hadn't had a chance to respond yet, but IMO I think he's right. I think the letter, despite what it physically says, will say to her (remember perception is really all that matters... and her perception, not yours) is "I'm trying to connect with you one last time, please, please, please engage with me on our R!"

Myself... and granted I say this without having to do it yet, I would walk out the door with my head held high and if possible a spring in my step. A victory lap might be a bit much though It will be a very sad and hard moment, but she needs to see that you're fine. Don't reach back, don't reach out... just walk out of her life. Leave her to her own devices, this is what she wants after all, right?

Love her the way she wants to be loved and unconditionally. So she is saying she wants to be loved by being left alone... so do that. The worst it does is nothing. The best it does is make her think, "WTH? Why didn't he seem to care? Why is he upbeat? Why is he ok?"

It's the step towards actually being ok without her. About showing her she's not all that and the bag of chips, and you'll make it on your own. You'd rather make it with her, but you'll make it either way. It also shows your sons a stronger man in control of himself.