Back home - but for how long?

[NYCPeter]

WorkingHardGuy - I have thought of that approach, my concern is my W will say "hey this D business isn't so bad after all" - everything financially comes out of my paycheck as my W works a couple of nights a week and uses the $$ as spending money - so seperating finances isn't really possible.

2thepoint - thanks for the perspective, it certainly sheds a possible different light on the situation. It would not surprise me if a guy is pursuing her and she is resisting - I always thought my W had high moral values, I think the reason she wants a D is to "test the waters" as it were, - well you are not "dipping your toe in", You are being "thrown into the deep end". I hope you reading of the messages is right.

She has surrounded herself with a group that don't have the same commitments she does - the WF above left her BF and moved in with another guy within a month - it's kind of "I can do it - so can you".

I know I am reading too much into things - just need to focus on myself - and love myself, not sure I have done that for a long time if ever.