Especially when I am attacked for no reason. I was able to not react, but geez, do I really deserve to be treated that way?
No, you don't deserve it at all. You're taking a lot of crap you don't deserve. I'm not sure it was 100% directed at you, though. Your H appears to be very confused and frustrated. Your 180 of not reacting is probably adding to his confusion and frustration. It's not necessarily a bad thing, though. If you reacted, it'll probably just give him confirmation of his decision to leave. Just my crack theory of the day.
Originally Posted By: realormakebeliev
I miss him and I still want to reconcile- but not with the person he is right now. This is not the guy I fell in love with.
I hear you loud and clear on this one. I can resemble this remark.
Originally Posted By: realormakebeliev
One of them, incidentally, is something of a WAS. She is unhappy with her H, says she has been the entire duration of her marriage. She is also cheating on him with an old friend.
Wow! The quintessential WAS. Re-writing history and everything. May give you some helpful insight, though.
Originally Posted By: realormakebeliev
She actually asked me if I would consider 'one on the side'. I told her no, definitely not. Told her I still loved my h, and that I couldn't do that to someone. She also told me that my H probably has one on the side as well based on the details and I guess she would know! I kind of knew that, but it still sux hearing it.
Good for you! You took a stand. You are doing the right thing. Just because your H is not doing the right thing, it doesn't justify doing the wrong thing yourself. I KNOW it stings actually hearing that, even if it's not a surprise. ((()))
Stay the course. You're being very strong. I'm praying for you.
