Changing strategies

[2thepoint]

Lydia - have you read the 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman? If not, it is highly recommended reading.

The 5 Love Languages are:

- Words of Affirmation
- Quality Time
- Receiving Gifts
- Acts of Service
- Physical Touch

Once you understand what the love languages are and are certain of which ones apply to you and your spouse (they're likely very different) then you can work on meeting each others emotional needs in a way that is profoundly meaningful for each of you.

The book talks about the need to have our love tanks filled on a regular basis. If your tank is running low or on empty then you are less likely to fill up the tank of your spouse. And that becomes a circular dilemma. So, someone has to start the process.

If your relationship is otherwise good, then maybe this can be a joint exercise in introspection and, well, you never know.