W is angrier after my 180's - time + consistency

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One T session down, DB coach session later today. I discussed the concept of a release/ultimatum letter with the T and he thought it was a good idea but also said he thought it was premature at this point. I'm going to bounce this off the DB coach this afternoon for additional perspective.

Some things I learned today regarding controlling behavior:

- I need to continue to be self aware of my actions and behavior
- I need to focus more on my self and my own behaviors and not worry about controlling others behavior.
- I need to recognize that I can't compete with the OM or W's T because these are things I can't control.
- Instead focus on making myself the best person I can be.
- Put up mental roadblocks to help detour away from controlling behavior.

My T thought that I did a great job of not controlling when W and I had our R talk the other day and I didn't bring up the EA that I know she is having (it was running through my mind the whole time!). He thought that took a tremendous amount of courage and for someone who is controlling to not bring that up was HUGE!

I'll post more later, but that is what I've got for now.