Trying to make it to the bye week

[MHL]

MTS,
I have been quietly following you when I get a chance here and there. I can go in spurts here on the board.

First, I am sorry about your situation but I can tell you that you seem to be on the right path.

You will experience many different emotions over the coming weeks and months.....it is normal.....let the emotions wash over you but do not let them control you.

I really like what Finah said to you....good stuff in there. My time is short these days so going through and quoting takes a little more time than I have right now. Sooooo, just go back and read it again.

As always 25's words are wise so no need to mention that.

(25 sorry to hear about your friend, and I concur that I too see more and more people around me that are unhappy and making dumb decisions.)

MTS, your life will be what you make of it.......but what motivates you to do so is key.

I am sure you will be a great success and that you will acheive the goals you have set forth for yourself. Right now you may find that you are still doing things to see if your W will notice......that is okay for now as long as you are doing something that will make you a better person.

What you will find however is that once you start to acheive these goals and milestones in YOUR life, you will realize that your motivation will have shifted.......you will not even realize it until it has happened.

Your motivation will be for YOU not for your W. It is at that time that you will realize that you and only YOU have the power to make YOU happy.

When you do that........YOU will be different......forever.

No one will ever be able to change that again.

Other people around you will take notice.......it happened to me. It is infectious and people want it and are attracted to it. They want what you have in your life but they do not know how to get there.

When you get there you will not care whether your W notices or not. But I guarantee that she will.

I am over 2 years post bomb and coming up on a year post divorce and my XW clearly sees and has told me that I look happy and seem to be doing well.

I can tell you honestly.........If I had the power to go back in time and change things.......I would not. I like the person I am today and I would not be who I am today without having gone through H@ll to get here.

You will get there too.........IN TIME.

Hope this helps.

Cheers