Infuriating -- that's the word I'm looking for. Thanks 25! How are you?
UPDATE 7:08pm 10/27
My wife DID respond (via text)...
W: I was simply going by the schedule. W: If u constitute halloween as a major holiday u should let me know. Last time we talked only thanksgiving and xmas were brought up.
M: It's not a major holiday, and short while seeing and taking pictures of E running around with his cute costume trick-or-treating - it's not massive time from your schedule with him, right?
W: I already have plans. If u have a problem talk to your attorney. Not my job to look out for u and your interests.
M: This has nothing to do with me or you and it shouldn't be. E and I chose costumes (and he and you too, I'm sure) and all he talks about now is going out together getting candy. So I say this because E deserves to enjoy a simple day like this because he's been so hyped about it. I don't see any reason to half his anticipation and excitement. This is not what mutual parenting is all about.
(I wanted to add something like: We gotta give our little fan what he wants! It's not an unreasonable request, after all.)