Finally confronted H on affair...Now what????

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Harrier - no worries about hijacking. We are all here to help each other and I most definitely welcome anyone's comments or input. So thanks for asking 25. I learned a lot myself as well.

I don't know if you read a bit of my latest posts, but I can tell you that in my case, our (H and I) desire to have it all and me believing I could be superwoman definitely played a huge role in the demise of our marriage. We both accumulated a lot of resentment about the sacrifices and things we lost along the way (which as 25 mentions, tend to be related to the M) and when kids came along, it all came crashing down.

Unfortunately, I am still in that tough age for my children (and will be for a while) and now I have to face it as a single mother. Now I feel so much pain and guilt for not being able to give my children what I always most desired - a family, not money or parents with successful careers. But such is life and I am trying to forgive myself and move on.

My children are my inspiration to keep going and to hopefully someday have another chance to build a new R with my H and be able to give my kids the family and life I always dreamed of for them.

Material things - they mean NOTHING to me right now, when I see that I lost the most important thing in my life - my H whom I adore. BUT, I also realize I have a responsibility to my children and I need $ to survive, obviously. But all those ambitions H and I had - the house with a nice backyard in a nice suburban neighborhood, private school, trips, nice cars, trendy clothes, nice gym, fancy dinners, all the things that come with money - are just not important. And we have lost all of that now anyways...

What matters to me is when I hug my kids at night and I can comfort them when they have nightmares or we can cuddle in my bed on a Sunday morning - that is what matters, and money or a successful career cannot buy those. Of course it would be nicer if my H could be with us to share those moments as well, but I am focusing on being grateful that I can get to enjoy them.

I will check out your thread as well. thanks again!