Finally confronted H on affair...Now what????

[25yearsmlc]

you're very welcome. I congratulate you on reading my thread. I can't do it again myself.

Brings me back to times I'd prefer forgetting most days. Note that what I believed then, DID change. I had little hope at times. A lot of times...

that means what your h actually believes now (not what he's telling himself) is also something that can change.

Try reading BrandNewDay's for a really challenging situation that seemed, well,

NOT GOOD (it was very hard to have hope at times, I'm sure)

but they're together now. They moved out here to California. She has 8 kids...and a great sense of humor, and an intact m.

Her name was once "faith&hopeinNH" I think. But anyhow, we do exist.

And we're all works in progress.

I think you'll be a great partner for your next r and I hope it's with your h.

But both of you expected way too much of each other and for you, given the physical realities of having the kids, way way way too much of YOU.

I'm sorry he bought into it all, but I understand it. You are far too hard on yourself.

You can learn to say "maybe I took on too much and for that, I'm sorry" and leave it at that. At some point in the future HE will realize at least that much.

If you have changed/are changing the anger issues and problem solving tools and approaches, that's all you can do for now.

You have to become the best woman you can be, from this day forward, and then

leave the results up to God.

((( )))