Today was much better than yesterday from the emotional side of things. Maybe I flushed it out of my system for the time being. I know it will be back.
Today was productive in terms of some 180's and GAL activities. I went to the gym early, continued work on updating the house, cooked dinner for the family....and then something interesting happened.
My W decided to watch a little TV with the family for the first time in WEEKS! She hung out and watched a few innings of game 6 of the World Series. I think she would have stayed a little longer but the boys were acting up and it made it difficult to enjoy the game.
I also noticed that she doesn't appear to be texting as much and the little netbook that she was using to Skype has been in the family room for several days now. So, either she has gone underground (a distinct possibility), OM is away (also a possibility since I thought I overheard her make a call the other morning to wake him up for an early morning flight), or things have cooled some (less likely).
Tomorrow I have a session with T and also with my DB coach. As per my previous post I want to focus on issues.... Control, Selfishness and Meeting Emotional Needs. I also want to discuss my moving out of the house and detaching.
Question for anyone willing to offer an opinion... I'm debating whether or not it is time (especially upon my moving out) to write a letter to my W basically saying that "I love you but you want out of the marriage so I'm going to let you go". Of course I will go full DB after that but want to know what people think about that. This approach has been covered in "Love Must Be Tough" by James Dobson and I think it is similar to the Ultimatum in DR.
So my question is, is it too early?
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It's easy to find our bottom, it is our top that requires cultivation.
Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife