Thanks, LITB! I hate what my S's having to go through. I know whatever happens is also going to impact his future relationships, too. I am trying to make that as positive as I can for him.
I was just sharing at my Men's group tonight, when my parents D'd, my D was the wayward spouse. My Mom would occasionally slip up and say something bad about my Dad. She was probably justified in it, but the biggest insult my Mom could hurl at me would be, "You are acting just like your Father". It damaged my confidence of being able to do anything right as a Father or a husband for that matter. Oddly enough, I think my latest situation has helped me overcome a lot that damage.
