((Rick)) It's hard to tell why your w is looking at you more. Just keep working on you and detaching. If she is interested.. her actions will be more consistent.
If you were going to have an r talk, what would it be? With the court date around the corner.. it makes sense you are anxious. Probably that is pushing a little bit into your need to speak with your w.
We worry that our spouses don't care. We worry that they will want us to move towards them.. but we were too scared. Makes sense.. we want our marriages to work!!
Those worries are based in fear.
The truth is.. if someone wants to talk or move towards us.. they will. I know it hurts when that doesn't happen but it's true. If/When our spouses realize the importance of us in their lives... that's when and ONLY when will they move towards us. It may be slow or hesitant but they won't give up.. at least not right away.. because they WILL see value in us again.
As for gaining the weight back.. exercise, eat healthy. If you don't want to gain it back... then don't.
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
