Don't take offense to my comments I"m just trying to give you another perspective from a guy that's been there... I did follow your sitch and was pulling for you along the way. I know she made you move out and forced the lawyer on you. Understand she is only listening to the enemy, not the OM but the evil spirit that is leading this EA and in control of your W.
No matter what, be ready because she will come running back, something will happen that will put her in a low place. That's when you need to be there but until then don't let her control your thoughts... (Easier said than done...) Get in a closet pray, fast... Devote your life to God. Also if possible I recommend, A Weekend To Remember conference. Just try it as a final resort before the divorce is final. Let her know that you know she's moved on but as her husband you are standing firm and fighting for her because you want to live a life together not as you were before but as part of a relationship built on faith and dedication to God and to eachother. You do have alot to straighten out, as does she, but by working on these things together it is better because your influence is built on something more solid than the other influences she has in her life right now. I'm praying for you guy, I really am... I'm sorry for everything you are going through and pray for your healing and for the restoration of your marriage.
