Trying to make it to the bye week

[MadeToSucceed]

I believe the combination of moving out of the house and losing contact for months or weeks at a time was destructive. Just my opinion... As the male you have to lead your W and pull her through these situations, it takes a man that is willing to go the extra mile not for your well-being but for the well being of the person you love. Losing contact you lose the opportunity to help. Try to stay in contact with her... Also the changes that you made have to be sincere. Don't revert back to the person that helped destroy your life but instead become that better man and your life will get better with time. Just trust and obey!!!

I appreciate the comments cjackson. I'm not sure how closely you followed my sitch but I was forced to move out of the house, I didn't really have an option. Similarly she didn't want to maintain contact with me...in fact the more I tried to contact her the worse it got. I'm trying not to take offense to the "it takes a man that is willing to go the extra mile" comment because I KNOW I definitely went the extra mile and then about 5,000 more miles during this ordeal. In fact, the vast majority of my actions have been for her well being and not my own as this has taken place.

I am curious though...how do you propose I "stay in contact with her" and if I were to do so, exactly how would that go? "W, I know you're fully engaged with OM but I'd love for us to be able to talk once a week about life." At some point, I'd like to think she and I will be able to have regular interactions but I know we aren't anywhere near there right now.

I'm doing everything I can each day to become a better servant of His kingdom and in turn a better man. That's all I can be. I won't say I helped to destroy my marriage though because a marriage can only be destroyed by one who is willing to let it. I definitely did not and have fought, kicked and screamed every way possible along the way. Ultimately, she chose to check out. I wasn't perfect but I was definitely always will to change and always willing to try. I signed up for "for better or worse." It seems like she just signed up for "for better." That's her choice. Not mine.

I'd love to have an opportunity one day for us to talk and see where we were but there's a lot of things she has to get straightened out on her own first and things that I'll now have to get straightened out on my end because of her actions before that can happen.