Flat out though. There is no reason to be talking with your WW. I know you want to sometimes, but as you can see it leads nowhere. Doesn’t matter if you reconcile down the road or never, talking with her now is absolutely pointless.
If you want the best shot at reconciling down the road, remove yourself from your WW reach for some time, she is grasping at this image of you that doesn't exist so don't fall prey to this.
I really appreciate this insight Finah. You're right and I probably should've taken this route sooner. I did contact my L to inform her of what needs to take place. I do struggle to see it from your viewpoint, though, about her cracking and what not. Even the stuff with OM...it seems like she's perfectly ok with living her life this way but you are right in that I really can't consume myself with these things anymore. These are her choices. I've had multiple people say to me she'll bottom out at some point and it'll be up to me whether or not I'll want to try again but I guess I just can't see it through my current pain. For now, I'll just work on me.
mid 20s Tgther 7 yrs W EA 04/12/11 PA 04/23/11 W filed 05/11/11 I moved out 08/05/11 Mediation mid Oct 11 D final Dec 11 Now what? ...2012
