W is angrier after my 180's - time + consistency

[2thepoint]

Gr8 - thanks for your post. BTW - I love your profile name!

It's very early in this process for me so I agree that a lot of time and patience is going to be required.

I'm really counting on my T and DB coach to help me understand how to work through the rough spots and address my controlling, selfishness and emotional absence. I think I've got the selfishness figured out. It seems like it really isn't much more than an awareness and then a conscience decision so hopefully I'll manage that effectively.

It is the controlling part that really worries me. I think I understand where it comes from but how to recognize it when it rears its ugly head and then manage it is something that I think is going to be tremendously challenging. I have the desire but need the guidance.

The emotional stuff (support, understanding, healing) is something I think boils down to simple communication, (seek to understand, demonstrate compassion, validate, validate, validate...). Maybe it is more. I guess I'll figure it out over time.