This has been the worst year of my life. My dad died. My oldest daughter died. Mom had double mastectomy. Now I find out that my three year old is not mine.
I started this thread on the[*edited by dbmod--reference not allowed]. I came here about two months ago. I have read both DB and DR as well as Not Just Friends. I have had several phone consultations with JoAnnne. I am all over the place emotionally.
The issues of infidelity is unfortunately all too common. Since our sex life has been nonexistent it nagged at the back of my mind. Now, our oldest daughter was hospitalized numerous times, often out of state, so that limited the contact we had.
But our relationship had gotten so bad that at the end of 2006 I started keeping track of when we had sex.
We have had sex 5 times since December 2006. the last time being November 16th and 17th, 2008.
After all of my reading I started back tracking the calendar. We had sex eight months and one week prior to Audrey being born. My guess now is that she missed her period after [censored] someone else so she slept with me two nights in a row so there would be plausible deniability.
I ordered a DNA test kit online. It said that there is a 0% chance I am the father. I paid $500 for one that will be admissable in court and it said the same thing.
I ordered a second kit for my kindergartener; she is mine. I called a geneticist to see if they can trace DNA from my dead daughter's baby teeth or if I may have to have her body exhumed. Has my marriage been based on lies since Day 1?
Wife moved out the beginning of September (two days before my birthday). She has gotten our lives so tangled up with the OM. They started a business together (with our funds). She says now they are just friends. But she is not interested in working on our marriage.
We went to counseling four times but she admitted it was just so she could say that she went. She told me that she had been unhappy for a really long time. I was suffering from severe depression (being treated for it). She says that she checked out years ago and is not coming back.
There is so much more to say and write but I just wanted to get this out there for some advice/feedback/help.
I have been doing the 180. My weight is back to what it was when we first started dating. I have been dressing better. Making sure I am the first one to end conversations. Not always returning calls/texts right away.
Just got off the phone with her. She is coming over later to pick up the girls and wants me to help her move some of her itmes out of the basement.
I want to tell her KCUF You. I know one of the articles on here talked about a guy helping his wife move out.
My wife is very meticulous. I feel she has had this planned for a very long time. She is making plans for us to try and sell the house in the spring.
