what if our spouses who decided to find a way back were reading the same "Save My Marriage" books as we are? We could could be DB-ing and NC-ing each other to no effect?
What the book tries to teach us, is to back off, and to give our spouse time to figure out who they are and what they want.
Essentially.....to detach from their craziness, and to deal with it rationally instead of emotionally...
Most of us here, at one time or another, have wondered if our spouses have taken a look through the DB books.
Although what we see and hear is new to us, their level of detachment is not new to them....they have taken their whole life to get to this point.
What you will find down the line is, that most MLCers have an attention span of a gnat, in regards to anything that deeply emotional.
I would speculate that the dis-interest in "healing" from a MLCer would be pretty high.
Which makes our MLCers, natural DBers...
Unless you are hearing specific words and terms...I wouldn't lose any sleep wondering.
