Are you Turkish? Your name caught my eye. My child's father is Turkish. We never married and he's "in the relationship" but we've got the ILYBINILWY thing going on.
Do read Michele's "The Divorce Remedy" if you haven't already. I also recommend Susan Page's books. Michele recommends them, too. Susan Page's "Why Talking is Not Enough" (read first chapter free on her website) or "How One of You can Bring the Two of You Together" are the ones I'm reading--either one will help you.
I'd say not to force you kids to see their Dad, give them some time. Continue to act SANE and both Susan Page and Michele really encourage the "Act As If". If you don't have michele's book yet, her blog has good articles and you tube has some videos. She will not steer you wrong! Your marriage and your daughters are worth all the hard work this will take!
You know what behaviors turn your husband off, so eliminate them. NC is hard, especially with kids, but seems like you're doing well.
If the NC doesn't bring some positive changes, do something different. Implement the 8 loving actions that Susan Page recommends. YOU MUST CHANGE YOURSELF. Your daughters need to see you radiating good will and loving actions towards your husband.
