untethering

[aeolianchaos]

Hey Finah,

I will probably let the L's deal with most of it. At this point I want to just break it as cleanly as possible and with as much of my integrity in tact as I can.

I'm working on my assertiveness mindset, as it is easy for me to 'care' for her at the expense of my own benefit.

I'm familiar with 80/20 - never seen it applied to this board, though. That is a very interesting way to frame it..

I'm not too worried about if life hits her hard or not at this point. I feel good about the work I've been doing and the work I will continue to be doing.

I am skeptical that things are as clean and tidy as she keeps insisting they are. It doesn't seem too likely that is the case, and I do see a possible future point where the cracks in that foundation affect her even more.

At this point - creating my own life in a way that fits who I am means much more to me than trying to figure out if she is or isn't telling herself stories.

I'd feel good about being understood clearly about who I am and why I'm showing up in that way.. but if that doesn't happen, it doesn't take anything away from me.