Antonia - you come across as such a lovely and engaged sort of person. one I am proud to know.
Do you know what I miss about my xh at this point? His sense of humour - how we could one of us say something and then both really laugh.
And OMG how we allowed those crazy guys to trash our self esteem by undermining us sexually, comparing us to OW. What kind of louse does that? I mean really. The nastiest sort of immature teenager.
But it hurts coming out of our spouse's mouth, and we allowed ourselves to believe those damaging words, spoken by a damaged person.
If I had had an affair, i know I would not have further hurt my xh by telling him how much more I enjoyed s*x with new guy . . . Think about it. Nuts and nasty with it. How much better to be you - reaching out and helping and connecting with people.
The new relationship will come. But it may take time.
