My H was never abusive. It has onl been VERY recently that he has started speaking to me this way. And it is often now. This last year he has become a bully. I would ask him why are you being mean to me like that and he would reply that he was trying to make me tough. kind of a joke? Im a really sensitive person. My H and I met young in our late teens eary 20s and were engaged when i was 20 and married when i was 21 he was 22. Right from the time we met we were bf. Really. Totaly in sink. sex was great, same morals, alot of the same friends, same wants. We confided in each other, shared dreams and plans. The things that i loved most about him (besides his looks smile was his character. He had so much intgrity. He was so sweet and caring and protective. I had never met anyone like him. What i like least about him is this "new" side. He bullys me to try to get what he wants. He is nasty. He is cowardly and childish in how he has treated me through this divorce. All the text threats. Please. what is that about. This is sooo not like him. In our marriage we have recently been strugglein about where extra money should go, our schedules, careers and wants. All very recently with in the last 6-7 months i guess after the baby was born. I heard today that he has been talking to his sis who he is living with that he never really wanted to get married. that he felt pressured from his family. Ouch. this hurts soooo bad. i dont really believe that. i was there i would have known. he keeps throwing out all these excuses as to why he is doing this to other people. like he is trying to justify it and feel less guilty. i dont know what to think about that