Have you thought of getting IC? Not that we aren't here to listen to you vent Lord knows I do it... but there's only so much a screen and characters can give you. Having a real person who's on your side can be really helpful.
I think it suxx that he's ignoring the SD. That's not right. I know as I look at what life might look like should my W and I split I am already trying to figure out how to keep SS and SD a part of my life. It will have to be an almost "uncle" role, but I've been in my SD's life since she was 1 1/2 and my SS since he was 3.
Married 6 together 8 Me:38 W:31 second marriage for both SS12, SD10, S6 Bomb: 9/8/11 (day before our 5 yr ann) W moved out: 2/18/12 D final: 11/12/12 Share S 50/50. Spend as much time as I can with SS & SD
Lord knows I do it... but there's only so much a screen and characters can give you. Having a real person who's on your side can be really helpful.