I think it's just as important to not feel pressure to GAL either. It looks like you might be feeling it, because you don't know what you can really invest any time into and also probably need social interaction. There's no deadline to GAL, and its ok to be unsure of how you'd go about it. Maybe just stop and think a minute about what relaxes you, or you enjoy doing, or what you would be doing if you had free time to yourself. Doesn't have to be anything out of the ordinary for you, it could be as simple as going to eat someplace you want to go to for you. You almost have to find a way to get lost in yourself.
Don't do anything you feel you SHOULD do in the name of GAL, do what you want to do or what relaxes you. So thinks I, anyway.
I wish you well.
M-34 XW-32 D-7 Found OM's presence 4/09 Separated 12/09 Divorced 8/10 GREAT relationship as coparents since 8/10