GALing and Boundaries with XH

[AntoniaB]

Hmmm, I think that's interesting...that pressure is building. You're very right AJ that when pressure builds I usually act. Sometimes the pressure has been "depression" building, and when it hits a peak, I usually switch something up to fight back. So it's helpful then to look at this situation in the same way.

As for the leopard print coat, no I don't suggest you buy one to attract women, ha ha. That was funny ;-)

Well thank you for telling me that you don't sleep with women for a long time. My few single male friends have told me that the dating scene is incredibly different than it was 20 years ago and that sex is expected asap. When I've expressed disapproval over this, I've been told "You're going to have to get over that if you want dates."

You know I hear that and feel like there are sexual predators all around me. And you know what didn't help? Last year, I was approached by a much older guy in a restaurant/bar. He told me immediately that he was "too old for me" but wanted to just offer to me that any time I wanted to hang out and just talk, that he was a regular at that bar. He gave me his business card because he was a self-employed painter. I later went home and looked to see if he had a website, because I wanted to see what his work was like or what he charged because I have a deck that needs stained. Instead of finding a website, I found that he was involved in a lawsuit with Kraft Foods, because they fired him when he was convicted of sexual assault. I'm sure it wasn't fair that he lost his job for that reason...but sexual assault? A conviction? I've never gone back to that bar since... because I don't want to run into him!

I think I just need a decent dating experience with someone who isn't looking for instant sex, or a predator, or someone who is respectful and not socially inept to the point where talking to a girl makes him vomit ;-) That would restore my faith in a lot of things...