I do want to continue to DB - unfortunately I'm not sure I have the strength to do so. It took all my willpower not to say anything last night. I'm not sure I'll be able to do that if there are any triggers.
I really would like to lovingly detach - can I, I'm not sure. I'm glad I won't really be interacting with her again until Sat, it gives me some breathing room.
She IMd me today telling me our plans for the weekend with the girls. How can she behanve like this when she's with another guy - she's certainly managed to detach.
This is exactly what you have to let go of. Yes, we all understand its hard and the information present makes it tough to do so, but if you really want to DB and you want your marriage to make it, you're going to have to do it. Utilize the breathing room to really think on whether or not you want to DB, because by your above post you're clearly not certain. It's never ok to say you want to do something and then include the word "but" in it. If I may break my nerd cred out a little, a little green puppet master of the force said it best.
