That is very helpful Kansha. The thing I find hardest is to listen....two days ago my H wanted to talk and started with saying that is EA is now feeling guilty about ripping our family apart, and that its is not her fault. i couldn't help myself, I had to say something. I should make it my mantra: shut up, shut up, shut up and listen!
yesterday, my boss told me that I was slacking. I felt so bad for letting the team down and letting her down, but I am just human and hurting. But I couldn't help but be bitter, think about what H is doing to me, destroying me. Sgain, reading your post makes me realize its not personal, he has to get over his MLC. He used to be such a responsible H and Dad.
W=49 H=44 D= 11 M=12 going on 13, T= 16 Bomb = June 26, 2010
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
Mike85 - hand in there, do the DB'ing, trust the universe that what should happen will happen. I'm in the same boat. You're not alone. Learning to DB takes so much strength and longer than you would think. Be strong!!!!!!!
______________ married - 24 yrs sons - 23,21,13 bomb - March 2011 EA discovered - April 2011
Hi K, Thank you for that note! I am sufferimg too from H's MLC. the only thing is that he won't talk to me, acknowledge me,or respond to me about our son. I decided that I would handle our sons needs on my own. I am reading eagerly all the info about MLC. I am now understanding the process. I pray for my H everyday that he pulls out of this. How long does this MLC last? 30 days, I wish? Anways Thanks you for the encouragment.
Evening everyone. I am new to DB and not sure where to begi I need help! Am I to post a new thread or do I just start with my situation from hell!? Please advise me
