Doesn't Bea always make you feel better? I know exactly how you feel, as you and I are walking about the same timeline. FWIW, I think you are becoming stronger and stronger. I always trust you to take the high road ( unlike myself ) Our kids are coming to grips with this just as we are, and their perspective is probably a bit less skewed than ours. You have been respectful of your children's wishes. XH has to learn to be, and learn he can't treat them as small children to bend to his will. ((hugs))