Back home - but for how long?

[workinghardguy]

Peter,
I agree with 2tp's comments but strongly encourage a focus on the "lovingly detach" piece... Yesterday I saw a message that really hurt me, it was the trigger I needed to detach. Yesterday and today I've been much more detached than ever before. BUT I noticed this morning that I had a huge backslide with the kids. Old me came back as they were really being difficult and my anger really got the best of me for a time.

This is the first time in months that's happend and I tie it to the hurt that triggered detaching, Somwhile I certainly plan to continue to detaching I have to make sure it's lovingly and not about the hurt, That I see my W's words as a clear sign that she is done. Not that she is contemplating being done... That she is done. So I have to be done too. If we come back great, but I can't tie myself to this sinking ship of a M. I can tow it behind me and keep it afloat in case she wants to get back in that boat someday, but if I stay in it I will sink too.