Finally confronted H on affair...Now what????

[BklynMom]

Wow KG, you are doing amazing in a really tough sitch. It seems like you did back slide yesterday but you are in an impossible sitch even someone that had a calm disposition would flip out. 2 things have help me control my responses to my husband when he is being a jerk (especially when he acts like this is so great that we are splitting up & everyone is going to be so happy) 1. Anti Depressants 2. Space & limited interaction. The prozac has been amazingly helping in controlling my anger, even when he told me again he was getting a divorce (still no papers) I didnt freak, that was the meds. Space & limited interaction. Ultimitely I do want to rebuild our friendship but right now it helps seeing him as little as possible and talking to him as little as possible. We have a D1 & D3 so we need to interact but right now we just see each other every other week for pick ups. This has been so powerful since now when I see him it is only for 1/2 hr max. So I pysch myself up & look my best for that small amount of time & act like things couldnt be better. There is no way I would be able to do that if I was seeing him all the time. Do you have family in the area that could help you out more? so you would have to talk to him all the time.
I have been amazed at how you have handled yourself. Having a new born & going through this crap is not easy. Your husband will be a part of your life for the rest of your life, slow down you have time.