Back home - but for how long?

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"I didn't talk about it - I do want to think this over. The convo above makes it clear something that happened 10 days ago and obviously happened in the past aswell. Why is she trying to be "more than friends with a crazy person". I always said if she had an A I would terminate the M, not because of the A - but because of the constant lies and blaming me and that "she was trying" - she obviously wasn't trying too hard.

I've gone from being worried whether I receive D papers to being totally ambivelent about it. Why she's giving this up so she can sleep with someone nicknamed "C-Dawg" is beyond my comprehension. Giving up M, giving up stability for our children. Why do her friends support her? I know my friends would "rip me a new one". Even if she wanted to reconcile, why should I."

The way I see it, this is your perfect opportunity to detach, for real. To my mind, it is very hard to really detach as long as there is something, anything that you can hang onto that lets you think there is hope. I'm not saying there isn't hope but the catalyst that is needed to help you detach has now been revealed.

You were hurt by her bomb but now you are angry at her infidelity. Use this new found energy as the focus for your detachment. If you can truly let go, with enough time, you may find your W moving closer. I think the best thing for you to do is to "lovingly detach". No angry words, just time and distance. Give her and yourself space. Grow for yourself, do your 180's, GAL, etc. With the space, your W may come to find that she misses you and becomes more attracted to you because of the changes you have made.

So, give it a shot. We'll all be rooting for you!