It's normal for the LBS to feel guilty when an affair is discovered, know that. I also went through about 8 days of complete insomnia and about 20 days of no appetite after I found out -- it will get better.
If necessary, see your doctor about taking something to help you sleep. Lack of rest will make everything harder. You imply that your wife has not been trying, that may be true but I can guarantee she's suffering as a result of her actions. She's not going to show you that, but she is.
Anything I can do to help let me know. It's the worst thing I went through by an order of magnitude but at least the pieces finally fit into place to explain W's bizarre behavior.
Accuray
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
