Not one man I have met has ever expressed that he was attracted to me except for my XH. NOT ONE.
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Just a few random dates in HS with guys I barely remember who pursued me and who I went out with just so I could say I went out with "someone."
Ummm...if the long-forgotten high school guys pursued you, then it's not really true that NO ONE was ever attracted to you, right????
As far as attraction goes - the first, most important part is to be comfortable in your own skin and sexuality. When you have that spring in your step, believe me, guys notice.
The second thing is - get a good friend to give you an objective assessment on whether you need to update your look. Hair color or cut? Wardrobe? I'm not saying you need to change into someone you're not, but a lot of us could use a little shove out of our comfort zones (just watch any episode of What Not To Wear).
And as far as dating goes - try to relax. Every date is not going to be "the one". Most will be awkward or just turn into interesting stories to tell at dinner parties. Some may turn out to be fleeting but romantic interludes. Let them just be what they are going to be, without trying to squeeze them into a relationship box.
I dated three guys before my current boyfriend. All three of them turned into good friends that I treasure; that was able to happen because I was willing to accept that we just weren't right for each other for the long haul. Each of them gave me something valuable that I needed at the time.
