these life changing heart wrenching events have a way of forcing us to do some soul searching that I'm pretty darn sure i wouldn't have done - only under this extreme duress.

We're all works in progress. One big difference in LBS and WAS that I've noticed is that we are troupers and don't bail on something just because it wasn't 'perfect'. I think we give others the benefit of the doubt a lot more than WAS in some ways.

Even though I backslide ---- heck a LOT lately....I have made positive changes for ME and i WILL be a better person ultimately. I cannot decisively say that about W. She certainly has her own issues -- and instead of working on them, chooses to mask them by immediately starting this new 'perfect' R.

Keep on keeping on.....


Me (f): 45
W(f) 35
T: 13 y
C: S4 adopted at birth
6-18-11 bomb: I want to break up
8-28-11 OW confirmed