I recently took a new job at a mortgage insurance company in the US. Can you imagine the stress for a minute? To top that off, it's a new role (to me) and has international responsibilities. I have a daughter that won't speak to me (espouses her mothers feelings towards me in her emails - nice). She's in High School. We used to be very close, but I sense danger to her in pursuing her. I have a 14 year old son that needs my guidance. I have a house that my ex left that I have to pay for. I have an ex that still spews hatred and acts like she would like nothing better than to push me off or under this rock we live on. I have two ailing grandparents (my mother died when I was 16 and was an only child which leaves my sister and I to care for them.) My grandmother recently broke her clavical and didn't tell anyone it hurt for close to a month. She lives in Calif and I'm on the east coast in NC. My brother in law is undergoing tests for his heart and lungs and spent a week in the hospital recently.
My ex left when I needed her most. I recently broke up with a long time gf because I wasn't ready (too much to deal with; can you imagine?)She has been calling me because she is going through a rough time and needs help. Her BFF's husband recently died of an anyeurism outside a gay club. I have a friend and his family living with me while they find a house. He has a teen daughter who is now living in my daughters room. I cleaned it out and found her old diary which really hurt because of the pain she expressed at her mother's behavior and the breakup of the family.
Oh, and I had to figure out how to get my son from his mom's to the house and get him dinner tonight.
I don't come by the comments lightly if that helps.
Life is good IB. Enjoy the time with your kids and don't let anything get in the way of that. Your daughter will only get married once (the first time and hopefully only once). You should be a part of that and celebrate the process as much as you can.
And along the way, do your best for your kids. Give them the gift of a relationship with their father that doesn't include you or your thoughts. The only way I can think to do that is to stay out of the way where it concerns him. Otherwise they'll pick up on what you are thinking and try to protect you.
Keep perspective and give your daughters the gift of love. You are their mother and they deserve so much that only you can give them.
Bring life on, I say. Let it rain, let it pour, let it be sunny and warm. But bring it on. The highs and the lows. Because that's what makes life worth living.
Don't miss it by overthinking it or making it complicated. It'll pass you by if you focus on the wrong things, right?
Peace,
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
To top that off, it's a new role (to me) and has international responsibilities. I have a daughter that won't speak to me (espouses her mothers feelings towards me in her emails - nice). She's in High School. We used to be very close, but I sense danger to her in pursuing her. I have a 14 year old son that needs my guidance. I have a house that my ex left that I have to pay for. I have an ex that still spews hatred and acts like she would like nothing better than to push me off or under this rock we live on. I have two ailing grandparents (my mother died when I was 16 and was an only child which leaves my sister and I to care for them.) My grandmother recently broke her clavical and didn't tell anyone it hurt for close to a month. She lives in Calif and I'm on the east coast in NC. My brother in law is undergoing tests for his heart and lungs and spent a week in the hospital recently. 