Hi, itm, that was just so cowardly of him to leave it to the C to tell your S. I have a very sensitive S, too, so I can understand it. My H didn't seem to care if he hurt anyone's feelings, he even said he was doing it for himself and nobody else's feelings mattered, even our S. So, I was our S's advocate in getting him through it. Now my H and I are "piecing" and maybe considered reconciled, and my S and I have become even closer than we already were, and he has a lot of respect for me, he says, for how I handled myself during this. He was 13 when we first found out, so close in age to your S. He had so much anger towards his F.
I hope you are able to get some help from the support group. I guess when you start going from abject despair and depression to righteous anger, you are beginning to heal a bit. And I know how you feel about being a discarded piece of trash, but you are far from that. You are someone who deserves to hold her head high, and know she did all she could do for her M and her family. vc
