untethering

[In_Shock]

yes, the honest assessment of you emotions and what you expect/need/want out of a R is very important. Your realizations about W seem to have come from a lot of soul searching, and definitely from hard hard knocks.

I think you sound like you are in a healthy place-- I've read your posts with regularity and I think you have grown so much in a good way that you really have outgrown her, unless she is able to work on herself....and she doesn't seem to be headed in that direction.

We will support you in whatever road you take. ((((((_)))))))